If you’re dating after divorce, here’s the reframe that will change everything: you are the chooser, not the one waiting to be chosen. Most of us were socialized to be “picked”—to smooth our edges, ignore our instincts, and give endless second chances. That conditioning doesn’t just waste your time; it puts you at risk.Professor of rhetoric and creator of the […]
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When you’ve been in a toxic relationship — especially with a narcissistic partner — the damage often goes deeper than you realize. It’s not just about leaving the relationship; it’s about recovering from emotional abuse and learning how to find yourself again.So many of my clients ask, “How did I lose myself so completely?” The truth is, the signs of […]
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When you’re wrestling with the question Should I stay or should I go?, the swirl of fear, guilt, and confusion can feel relentless. After more than a decade supporting thousands of women through this, I created my Divorce Roadmap to help you drop a pin on where you are right now — so you know what’s normal, what’s ahead, and […]
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Divorce is overwhelming under the best of circumstances. Add ADHD, trauma, or a high-conflict ex into the mix, and it can feel impossible to keep your head above water. But here’s the truth: you don’t have to “do divorce” the way the system expects you to—and you don’t have to do it alone. This is where divorce coaching for women […]
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Getting out of an abusive or controlling relationship is only the first step. So many people think, “Once I leave, I’ll feel better right away.” But the truth is, your nervous system may be stuck in survival mode long after the relationship ends.I see this constantly: people who are technically free — living in a new home, signing divorce papers […]
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When you’re stuck in a cycle of emotional abuse — especially the covert kind — you often don’t even know it’s happening. You just feel crazy. You feel like you’re the problem. You twist yourself into knots trying to fix the relationship, when in reality, the problem was never you.If you’re recovering from emotional abuse, you need to know this: […]
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One of the most life-changing moments I see when I coach people through relationship transitions is when they realize: “I’m not crazy. There’s a pattern.”Narcissistic behavior isn’t random. It’s painfully predictable. It follows a cycle: love bombing, gaslighting, blame-shifting, and manipulation. The narcissist’s goal? Keep you stuck, confused, and off balance so you doubt your reality.When we’ve grown up with […]
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When you’re leaving a controlling or toxic relationship, money is more than dollars and cents — it’s your safety, your security, and your escape hatch.For many women I work with, money has been used as a weapon: hidden accounts, financial gaslighting, or threats that you’ll “have nothing” if you leave. So when you start to untangle your life, you may […]
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When it comes to surviving — and thriving — during divorce or in a difficult relationship, the hardest lesson many of us learn is this: it is not your job to fix someone else’s life.As I often tell my clients, “It’s not your job to heal your partner’s childhood wounds, to make him show up for your kids, or to […]
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When you’re in a relationship that feels broken, it’s normal to think, “Maybe we need couples therapy.” After all, we’re taught that healthy couples work on their issues together. But what if the “issue” isn’t miscommunication or mismatched expectations — what if it’s abuse?When one partner is abusive, traditional couples therapy is not just ineffective — it’s dangerous, contraindicated, and, […]
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