If you’ve been questioning your relationship for months — or years — wondering whether you’re overreacting, whether things are really as bad as they feel, or whether leaving will cost you everything you’ve built, I want you to know something first: you’re not imagining it, and you’re not alone.
Certified divorce coach, author of The D Word, and host of The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast — with over 3.5 million downloads worldwide and recommended by The New York Times.
For more than 15 years, I’ve helped thousands of women navigate high-conflict relationships and divorce with clarity, strategy, and support — so they can make decisions they trust and rebuild their lives with confidence.
The Coaches Training Institute (CTI) and CRR Global
State of California
Christina McGhee’s Coparenting Specialist Training Program
Tina Swithin’s High Conflict Divorce Coaching Program
Earlier in my career, I coached Fortune 500 executives in leadership, communication, and emotional intelligence — experience that continues to shape the strategic lens I bring to every client I work with today.
I didn’t come to this field as a distant expert. I came to it the hard way.
Like many of the women I now support, I spent years questioning my own marriage. From the outside, it didn’t look obviously broken. But inside it, I was constantly second-guessing myself — wondering if I was overreacting, if things were really as bad as they felt, if I just needed to try harder.
For a long time, I lived in that exhausting space between knowing something isn’t right and not yet knowing what to do about it. If you’re there right now, I understand that place deeply.
Eventually, one realization became impossible to ignore: if I stayed, the relationship my son was watching would become his model for what love and partnership look like. That was not the future I wanted for him.
Leaving was one of the hardest decisions I’ve ever made. It was also the one that allowed both of us to move toward something healthier — and it changed the direction of my life entirely.
It also made one thing painfully clear: women deserve far better support when navigating these decisions than most systems currently provide. This work is my answer to that.
Here’s what I know after 15 years of this work: most women aren’t stuck because they’re weak or indecisive. They’re stuck because the dynamics they’re living inside are genuinely confusing — often by design.
My role isn’t to tell you what to do. It’s to help you see your situation clearly enough that your own decisions start to feel obvious. Because when women have the right information and the right support, they make remarkably thoughtful, courageous decisions — for themselves and for their children.
You don’t need to have it all figured out to begin. Most women start by simply listening — the podcast has more than 300 episodes covering relationships, divorce, co-parenting, and rebuilding life on the other side.
If you’re in the thick of it right now and want real-time support, Phoenix Rising is my ongoing coaching community for women navigating exactly that.
Wherever you are in this process, you’re welcome here.