Divorce coaching is strategic, practical, emotional, and educational support for one of the most destabilizing transitions of your life.
Therapy is often focused on processing your past, your patterns, and your emotional healing. Legal counsel is focused on your legal rights and the divorce process. Divorce coaching sits in the space between.
This is where we look at what is happening in your actual life and help you make clearer, more grounded decisions about what to do next.
That might mean preparing to talk to an attorney, deciding whether mediation is appropriate, understanding the dynamics of a high-conflict spouse, creating a parenting plan, preparing for a difficult conversation, navigating co-parenting, or learning how to protect yourself from post-separation abuse.
Coaching is not therapy. It is not legal advice. It is strategic support for the real-life decisions that divorce demands.
Therapy can be incredibly valuable, especially when you are healing from trauma, emotional abuse, betrayal, or years of self-abandonment.
But many women come to me after years of therapy still saying, “I understand why I feel this way. But I still don’t know what to do.”
That is where coaching comes in.
Coaching is more forward-focused and action-oriented. We work with the reality in front of you: the decisions, the conversations, the legal process, the parenting issues, the fear, the confusion, and the patterns that are keeping you stuck.
The most powerful support often includes both: therapy for healing and coaching for strategy.
No. I am not an attorney, and nothing I offer is legal advice.
What I do provide is strategic support, education, and preparation so you can work more effectively with your attorney, mediator, or legal team.
I help you understand what questions to ask, what issues to think through, what patterns may be at play, and what you may need to document, clarify, or push back on.
Your attorney handles the law. I help you understand the strategy, dynamics, and real-life implications of the decisions in front of you.
Yes.
You do not need to be certain you want a divorce before working with me.
Many women come to this work because they are living in the exhausting space between “I can’t keep doing this” and “I don’t know if I can leave.”
That space deserves support. You do not need to be pushed, judged, or told what to do. You need clarity, honesty, education, and a grounded place to sort through what is actually happening.
If you are still deciding, the best starting point is usually Should I Stay or Should I Go?
No.
My work is not about convincing anyone to leave their marriage.
My work is about helping women tell the truth about what is happening, understand the patterns they are living inside, and make decisions from clarity rather than fear, guilt, confusion, or survival mode.
Sometimes that clarity leads to repair. Sometimes it leads to divorce. Sometimes it leads to a slower, safer, more strategic preparation process.
The goal is not divorce. The goal is truth, safety, autonomy, and informed decision-making.
Yes.
High-conflict and emotionally abusive divorce is the heart of my work.
Many of the women I support are dealing with coercive control, financial manipulation, post-separation abuse, litigation abuse, intimidation, gaslighting, chronic blame-shifting, or a spouse who looks charming and reasonable to everyone else while making life unbearable behind closed doors.
These dynamics require a different kind of strategy.
The advice that works in a low-conflict divorce often does not work when coercive control is present. “Just communicate better,” “try mediation,” “be flexible,” or “take the high road” can actually make things worse when the other person is using the process to maintain control.
This is why divorce strategy matters.
My work is informed by my training as a Certified Domestic Violence Advocate, and I regularly support women navigating coercive control, emotional abuse, post-separation abuse, and high-conflict divorce dynamics.
That said, coaching is not emergency support or crisis intervention.
If you are in immediate danger, please contact local emergency services or a domestic violence organization in your area. If you are in the United States, you can contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE or visit thehotline.org.
If you are not in immediate danger but you are trying to understand what is happening, prepare safely, document patterns, or navigate divorce with an abusive or controlling spouse, this is exactly the kind of strategic support my work is designed to provide.
Yes. In fact, many clients work with me because they have an attorney but still feel unsupported in the day-to-day reality of divorce.
Your attorney can tell you what the law says. They can file motions, draft agreements, negotiate, and represent your legal interests.
But most attorneys do not have the time, training, or role to help you understand emotional abuse dynamics, prepare for manipulative communication, organize your thoughts before a legal consult, think through parenting-plan details, or stay grounded when your nervous system is completely overwhelmed.
That is where coaching can be incredibly valuable.
Yes.
I can help you think through what kind of divorce process may be appropriate, what kind of attorney or mediator you may need, what questions to ask in a consult, and what red flags to watch for.
I cannot choose an attorney for you or give legal advice, but I can help you become a much more informed and strategic consumer of legal services.
Yes.
My work is done virtually, so I work with clients across the United States and internationally.
Because I am not providing therapy or legal advice, my work is not limited by state licensing rules in the way therapy or law would be.
That said, divorce laws vary by state and country, so you will still need appropriate legal guidance where you live.
My private coaching and Phoenix Rising work are designed for women.
For a variety of reasons, I do not currently work privately with men.
Men are welcome to access public resources such as the podcast, blog, and book where appropriate, but my coaching containers are specifically built around the experiences and needs of women navigating divorce, emotional abuse, coercive control, and post-separation dynamics.
I have been practicing as a certified coach for over a decade and am widely considered one of the pioneers of the divorce coaching industry.
I am certified in individual coaching through CTI and trained in Organization and Relationship Systems Coaching through CRR Global. I am also a Certified Domestic Violence Advocate in California, a Co-Parenting Specialist trained through Mosten Guthrie Academy, and a High Conflict Divorce Coach.
I am the author of The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage and the host of The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast, which has reached millions of downloads and has become a trusted resource for women navigating divorce, coercive control, co-parenting, and rebuilding life afterward.
My work combines coaching, education, divorce strategy, abuse-informed support, and years of experience helping women make clear, grounded decisions during some of the hardest moments of their lives.
Yes, your privacy matters deeply.
Coaching is a confidential relationship, and I treat your information with care and discretion.
However, coaching does not carry the same legal privilege as therapy or attorney-client communication. That means it is not protected in the same way conversations with a licensed therapist or attorney may be.
If you have concerns about privacy, documentation, discovery, or litigation, we can talk strategically about how to communicate and what to be mindful of.
This is a real and important concern.
Because of how banks and credit card processors work, I cannot fully control how a charge appears on your statement. My name, business name, or related identifying information may appear, depending on your bank or card issuer.
If it is unsafe or risky for your partner to see a charge connected to this work, consider using a separate card, asking a trusted friend or family member to make the purchase for you, or finding another safe payment method that does not put you at risk.
Please think through your safety and privacy before purchasing.
No. At this time, all purchases must be made through the payment options available on the website.
I know this can be frustrating, especially when financial privacy is a concern, but I am not able to manage alternative payment arrangements outside the systems already in place.
I work hard to offer support at different levels so there are multiple ways to access this work.
Private coaching is the highest-touch option and is priced accordingly. Phoenix Rising offers ongoing support at a lower monthly investment. There are also self-paced programs, the book, the podcast, the blog, and other free resources available.
Payment plans may be available depending on the program or offer.
Most of the women who come into this work have complicated situations.
High-conflict divorce is complicated. Coercive control is complicated. Parenting with someone who manipulates, blames, stonewalls, or weaponizes the children is complicated. Financial uncertainty is complicated. Trying to leave while still functioning as a mother, employee, business owner, or human being is complicated.
This work exists because divorce is rarely simple, and women deserve support that understands the emotional, strategic, financial, legal, and parenting realities at the same time.