Wondering if you should have sex with your spouse — even if you don’t want to? I’m gonna give it to you straight… NOPE. NEVER. NOT A CHANCE. There’s no gray area here. No one — I repeat — NO ONE is entitled to your body. At any time. Or for any fucking reason. Period. Not even your husband. So […]
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So you’re divorcing, but you’ve decided (or you need) to stay in the same house for a little while. It may feel impossible to cohabitate with someone who feels like your sworn enemy at the moment, but many people choose this route while they figure their lives out. Obviously, if there’s abuse going on and you’re not safe to stay […]
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Listen… No one goes into a marriage planning on getting a divorce… You likely entered your partnership with incredible dreams, goals, and a whole lotta warm, fuzzy feelings about your future with this person. You built a life with them. You built a fucking family with them. And, somewhere along the line, things shifted. After so many years, you can’t […]
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Your mind has been racing with thoughts like: “Why is nothing I do good enough?” “Am I really that bad of a wife?” “I’m trying so hard, but it feels like everything I do is wrong.” Every single interaction with your spouse leaves you feeling confused, invalidated, and… small. Your head is spinning after the five-hour fight you had. Nothing […]
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It seems like it should be an easy sell—what co-parent hasn’t wished for a solution that makes co-parenting easier? Co-parenting apps help divorced or separated parents co-parent more effectively and efficiently—and with less conflict. That’s something everyone wants. Still, some co-parents resist the idea. But they have some fair questions. I’ve unearthed the top 5 reasons reluctant co-parents bring up […]
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Communication Divorce Motherhood
When your life is turned upside down by divorce, it can be so hard to think clearly. It feels like there are millions of things to untangle and sort through, and each one is swirling through your mind fighting for your attention. And in the midst of all that chaos is the most important decision you’ll have to make: your […]
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Yep. I’m going there…Talking about betrayal can feel — well, taboo as hell. That’s because it’s typically been shoved under the rug.But the experience is so universal, right?! As a collective, why aren’t we talking about this more openly?Thankfully, there are voices out there working hard to destigmatize betrayal recovery and empower countless women along the way. Gilza Fort Martinez is […]
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I’m just gonna go ahead and say it…There are a lot of bad therapists out there.Think about it — almost anyone can obtain a license in a therapy program (as long as they have the money to shell out for one).And yet, we’re eagerly placing our mental health in their hands. We’re sharing our most vulnerable moments with these people […]
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What do you do if your spouse won’t go to therapy, you’re not ready to be done, but you need to make some changes to your relationship if it’s going to have any shot of lasting?Can you work on things on your own?I recently spoke with a client whose husband had a very legitimate trauma stemming from being forced into […]
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Whether you made this decision or it was made for you, here you are. So what do you do now? Lawyer up, right? 🙅🏼♀️ Wrong 🙅🏼♀️ “Lawyer up” is the most dangerous advice you can take from anyone, especially someone who doesn’t know the ins and outs of your specific marriage and divorce. As soon as you “lawyer up” you […]
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