January 7th, 2020
They say that January is “Divorce Month.” As the new year rolls in, you may be ready to finally make some changes. And if you are, you’re far from alone. This is because of the number of women who hit the ropes following the holiday is enormous. In fact, that was me, on Christmas Eve, eleven years ago. If you believe your impending divorce is going to involve a high-conflict co-parenting situation, this week’s episode is going to shine a light on some important issues for you.
My guest, Megan Hunter, is an expert on high-conflict disputes, complicated relationships and Borderline Personality Disorder. She is co-founder of the High Conflict Institute along with author and speaker, Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq., who developed the high-conflict personality theory. She is also the author of The High-Conflict Co-Parenting Survival Guide.
In this episode we explore how to maneuver in a high-conflict divorce. We discuss understanding the high-conflict personality, their motivation, and how to protect yourself. Megan also shares insight and wisdom about how to survive co-parenting with a high-conflict personality. She also offers a great reminder: take care of yourself first, get therapy, work with a coach (hi, that’s me!), and focus on getting your head straight. Then, focus on the rest.
High-conflict divorce and disputes on the rise (4:45)
Gender stereotypes and high-conflict behaviors (9:02)
The four traits of a high-conflict personality (11:44)
Understanding the motivations of a high-conflict personality (15:25)
Conflating acceptance with continuing to be victimized; it’s NOT your job to fix your spouse! (21:52)
How to survive a high-conflict co-parenting situation (25:45)
Some other co-parenting relationship techniques, including using the BIFF technique (47:26)
How getting unhooked from emotions can be helpful (and what that means) (52:02)
Learn More About Megan:
Megan Hunter, MBA, is an expert on high-conflict disputes, complicated relationships and Borderline Personality Disorder. She is co-founder of the High Conflict Institute along with author and speaker, Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. who developed the high-conflict personality theory. Megan developed the concept of the Institute after 13 years in family law as the Family Law Specialist with the Arizona Supreme Court, and Child Support Manager of the Dawes County Attorney’s Office in Nebraska. She is CEO of Unhooked Media, a U.S.-based media company and is the author of THE HIGH-CONFLICT CO-PARENTING SURVIVAL GUIDE (2019), DATING RADAR™ (2017) and BAIT AND SWITCH.
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