When it comes to healing after abuse, one truth stands above all others: you cannot rebuild your life until you learn to trust yourself again.I see this with nearly every woman I work with. They leave emotionally or physically abusive relationships, step into freedom, and suddenly realize they’ve forgotten what it feels like to have agency. Years of manipulation and […]
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When I work with clients who are on the edge of major change—leaving an abusive relationship, calling an attorney, setting a boundary they’ve avoided for years—I often hear, “I know this chaos. I can handle this chaos. I don’t know what comes next.”This isn’t resistance. It’s not indecision or weakness. It’s a trauma response. Specifically, it’s freeze.Freeze is your nervous […]
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We’re not obsessed with death. We’re searching for survival lessons the genre refuses to teach.Why Women Can’t Stop Watching True CrimeWomen consume true crime more than any other demographic — not because we’re drawn to darkness, but because we’re trying to survive it. What looks like morbid curiosity is, for many of us, an act of self-preservation. True crime has […]
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When I work with clients who are married to someone struggling with addiction—especially when alcohol is part of an abusive or volatile dynamic—the path forward can feel impossibly tangled. They’re often caught between fear and guilt: fear of what will happen if they leave, and guilt for even considering it. One of the most common questions I hear is, “How […]
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Money isn’t just numbers on a spreadsheet. It’s safety, freedom, self-worth—and, for many women going through divorce, a whole lot of shame. In my recent conversation with Shari Rash—nationally recognized financial advisor, money mindset expert, and host of Everyone’s Talking Money—we explored how women can reclaim their financial confidence during and after divorce.Shari’s first piece of advice? Start dating your […]
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When we think of leadership, we often picture boardrooms, not breakups. But after my recent conversation with executive leadership coach and consultant Blair Glaser, I’ve been thinking differently—because what Blair teaches about leadership and teams maps beautifully onto what I see working for my clients during and after divorce.When you’re navigating grief, co-parenting, communication breakdowns, and a total identity reset, […]
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If you’re dating after divorce, here’s the reframe that will change everything: you are the chooser, not the one waiting to be chosen. Most of us were socialized to be “picked”—to smooth our edges, ignore our instincts, and give endless second chances. That conditioning doesn’t just waste your time; it puts you at risk.Professor of rhetoric and creator of the […]
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When you’ve been in a toxic relationship — especially with a narcissistic partner — the damage often goes deeper than you realize. It’s not just about leaving the relationship; it’s about recovering from emotional abuse and learning how to find yourself again.So many of my clients ask, “How did I lose myself so completely?” The truth is, the signs of […]
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When you’re wrestling with the question Should I stay or should I go?, the swirl of fear, guilt, and confusion can feel relentless. After more than a decade supporting thousands of women through this, I created my Divorce Roadmap to help you drop a pin on where you are right now — so you know what’s normal, what’s ahead, and […]
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Divorce is overwhelming under the best of circumstances. Add ADHD, trauma, or a high-conflict ex into the mix, and it can feel impossible to keep your head above water. But here’s the truth: you don’t have to “do divorce” the way the system expects you to—and you don’t have to do it alone. This is where divorce coaching for women […]
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