The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast #202

Anxious Attachment and How to Heal

Episode 202: Anxious Attachment and How to Heal with Chris Rackliffe

with Chris Rackliffe

About This Episode

This episode is going to change your life. Chris Rackliffe joins me for a profound conversation about anxious attachment and the three components of healing. We also discuss shame, the fear of abandonment, and how to break the cycle of attachment. It’s truly an inspiring conversation.

Chris Rackliffe is a personal development writer and anxious attachment style coach, whose ability to paint with words has touched the lives of millions of people around the world. Rackliffe shares stories that cut straight to the heart, detailing his own heartfelt and harrowing experiences to help others lead happier, healthier, more fulfilling lives. In his books and blogs, keynotes, and coaching sessions, Rackliffe blends principles of psychology, philosophy, physics, and spirituality with his signature storytelling aimed to make you feel and heal.

Learn more about Chris Rackliffe:

Chris Rackliffe, or @crackliffe, as he is fondly known by friends and readers alike, is a trauma survivor, mental health advocate, anxious attachment style coach, and author of the self-help book, It’s Good to See Me Again: How to Find Your Way When You Feel Lost—an illuminating guidebook on the journey to find emotional healing.

Throughout his extensive career, he has engaged millions of people around the globe as head of social media for some of the best-known magazines in the world, including Entertainment Weekly, Men’s Health, PEOPLE, and more. Chris spent the last decade helping these brands connect with their readers; now, he’s using the skills he learned for the good of humanity, helping to spread messages of acceptance, healing, and growth through his books, talks, newsletters, and TikTok community of nearly 100,000 strong.

A sought-after adviser, instructor, and motivational speaker, Chris was named one of 40 Under 40 Brand Marketers in New York in 2018 by Brand Innovators and was also highlighted in the 2015 Folio: 100 as a key figure helping to shape the future of media.

With a B.S. in Psychology from the University of Miami—and an honorary Ph.D. in the “School of Life”—Chris paints with words, telling first-person stories that cut straight to the heart. Chris has made it his sole purpose to help others find peace, perspective, and power through their struggles. You can read his work on Medium, Thrive Global, TIME, Women’s Health, and beyond. 

What you’ll hear about in this episode:

  • The difference between independence and interdependence in a relationship. (8:22)
  • Anxious attachment: what it is and how it shows up in relationships. (9:03)
  • You are not broken and don’t require fixing. You need love, support, and encouragement. You do not need to beat yourself up any longer. (25:38)
  • Shame is the fear of being unworthy, a fear of being too much or not good enough. (26:30)
  • You need people who get you, see you, and respect you. If you have to start with a professional, that’s okay. Start somewhere. (32:48)
  • Self-care should be replenishing and rejuvenating your full system: mind, body, and spirit. (35:29)
  • How the fear of abandonment can be a self-fulfilling prophecy. (43:56)

Disclaimer

The commentary and opinions available on this podcast are for informational and entertainment purposes only and not for the purpose of providing legal or psychological advice. You should contact an attorney, coach, or therapist in your state to obtain advice with respect to any particular issue or problem.

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