This is an enormous issue I see over and over again in my practice: Women finally get the strength to pull the trigger and file for divorce…and then they’re stuck in the house with their abusers for the foreseeable future. More often than not, these women, many of whom also work full-time, are the primary caretakers of children who reside in the […]
READ MORE
Recently I was asked for a quote by Time Magazine for an article about gaslighting.Here’s what they asked for:What to say to the personWhy it’s effectiveAny tips on delivery/do you leave right after/how do you follow-up/etc.Here’s what I submitted:“Because true gaslighting is deliberate, there’s usually nothing you can say to them to get them to stop. Gaslighting is a tactic […]
READ MORE
“Is my husband a narcissist?”I hear this question allllll the time from my clients.And I get why — because they desperately want to make sense of their partner’s crazy-making behavior. They’re searching for something concrete to latch onto that explains why they feel so damn crazy.Since you’re here, I’m thinking you can relate…Maybe your partner makes you feel like everything […]
READ MORE
We need to have a serious conversation about the insidious and dangerous term “parental alienation.” If you’re going through a divorce with a toxic spouse, you might have heard this phrase thrown around in court. On the surface, it sounds legitimate and intimidating. But here’s the thing… It’s a load of crap.“Parental alienation” is a claim used by abusers to manipulate the […]
READ MORE
Are you feeling stuck in limbo, contemplating what to do when you want a divorce? As a divorce coach that empowers women going through divorce, trust me when I say you’re not alone. Because here’s the thing — women in cis-hetero relationships have to do everything. Literally everything. And we’re exhausted. The invisible weight of life’s tasks is relentless, and […]
READ MORE
The ERA is a proposed amendment to the US Constitution that would ensure equal rights for all citizens regardless of gender. The amendment was first introduced in 1923. Yes, one century ago. But shockingly, it still has not yet been ratified. That means women currently have no constitutionally held right to equality. Let that sink in for a moment…In 2023, […]
READ MORE
Are you trying to decide if you want to leave your toxic marriage?Maybe you’ve had enough. Enough of…The lies.The confusion.The controlling behavior.The explosive outbursts.The walking on eggshells.And most of all — that feeling that no matter WHAT you do, it’s never good enough.You can’t take it anymore. You know you deserve to be treated better. So you finally tell your […]
READ MORE
Is your emotional attachment to your ex-husband keeping you emotionally tethered to the relationship, even after deciding to pursue a divorce?It’s not uncommon to find yourself still walking on eggshells to avoid conflict with your ex…Allowing them to maintain control over the narrative with your children…Deferring to their decisions, even when they don’t align with your values…Relying on them for […]
READ MORE
Wondering if you should have sex with your spouse — even if you don’t want to? I’m gonna give it to you straight… NOPE. NEVER. NOT A CHANCE. There’s no gray area here. No one — I repeat — NO ONE is entitled to your body. At any time. Or for any fucking reason. Period. Not even your husband. So […]
READ MORE
So you’re divorcing, but you’ve decided (or you need) to stay in the same house for a little while. It may feel impossible to cohabitate with someone who feels like your sworn enemy at the moment, but many people choose this route while they figure their lives out. Obviously, if there’s abuse going on and you’re not safe to stay […]
READ MORE