Episode 84: Sobriety and Divorce with Laura McKowen

Getting sober is a vulnerable process, but as this week’s guest’s book suggests, there is surprising magic in getting sober. Laura McKowen, author of We Are the Luckiest is here to talk about her journey to sobriety, getting comfortable with the uncomfortable, and making it through to the other side.

I’ve been on my own sobriety journey, and I’m still kind of early in the process. In this episode, you’ll hear how my story is completely different from Laura’s, yet the feelings are so similar.

If you’re not sober, if you’re not struggling to get sober, or if you have no intention of ever getting sober, this episode (and Laura’s book) is still a great resource! The wisdom Laura shares during our conversation are applicable to every facet of life.

  • Laura shares openly about getting divorced in the midst of her sobriety journey. (4:53)

  • Learning how to be in a relationship with someone without alcohol. (10:45)

  • Why people-pleasing is a form of dishonesty and some of the other insidious ways that we’re not honest with ourselves and those around us. (16:38)

  • The pregnancy principle: what it is and why it matters. (39:45)

  • In order for something new to grow there have to be boundaries. (23:36)

  • How to let go of perfectionism. (40:01)

Learn More About Laura McKowen: 

Laura McKowen is the author of We Are the Luckiest. She is a former public relations executive who has become recognized as a fresh voice in the recovery movement. Beloved for her soulful and irreverent writing, she now leads sold-out yoga-based retreats and courses that teach people how to say yes to a bigger life. She hosted the iTunes Top 100 podcast HOME, with over 1.5 million downloads. and has been featured on the TODAY show, in the Guardian,  New York Times, Web MD,  and more.

Resources & Links:

Laura’s website
Laura on Facebook
Laura on Instagram
Laura on Twitter
Laura on Pinterest 
The Ultimate Divorce Survival Guide
Should I Stay or Should I Go Facebook Group


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