Eli Harwood, the Attachment Nerd, joins me on the podcast this week to talk about attachment theory, building deep connections, and her new book, Securely Attached: Transform Your Attachment Patterns Into Loving, Lasting Romantic Relationships!

We hear about attachment styles all the time. In this episode, Eli and I nerd out on all things attachment, get to the heart of how attachment patterns impact us, and how to transform patterns that are not in service of healthy, loving relationships.

Featured topics:

• Attachment styles/patterns: what does the developmental research say? (3:42)

• What attachment is from a biological/evolutionary perspective. (6:46)

• The different attachment patterns and how each pattern impacts relationships. (7:03)

• Eli answers, “Can you transform into a secure attachment pattern in an unhealthy relationship?” (24:00)

• It is ethically contraindicated to engage in couples therapy when abuse is present.  (33:58)

• When you leave an abusive relationship, you will be creating a domain in your life and your children’s lives that are free of abuse. (40:28)

Learn more about Eli Harwood:

Eli Harwood is a licensed therapist, author, and educator who has more than 17 years of experience helping people process relational traumas and develop secure attachment relationships with their children and partners. Eli has three children, one husband, two cats, and an extraordinary number of plants!

Resources & Links:

Kate’s book “The D Word

Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective

Private Coaching with Kate

Eli on Instagram

Eli’s website

Eli’s book, Securely Attached

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