Episode 96: Co-parenting Neurodiverse Children Post-Divorce with Elaine Taylor-Klaus

Maneuvering through a divorce is tough. Co-parenting can be even tougher. Parenting a diagnosed or newly diagnosed child with ADHD or neurodiversity post-divorce, well, things can feel downright suffocating at times. This week on the podcast we’re talking about parenting a perfectly imperfect complex child in the midst of a divorce.

My guest Elaine Taylor-Klaus is an author, parent educator, and certified coach. She’s the co-founder of ImpactADHD.com and co-creator of Sanity School®. When my son was diagnosed with ADHD, Elaine’s work truly impacted the way that I moved through my son’s diagnosis, parenting, co-parenting with my ex, and everything that came after that.

Seriously. Elaine’s work was a lifesaver for me.

Show Highlights

  • Getting an ADHD diagnosis for your child. (4:20)

  • Now that you know what you are dealing with, what happens next? (5:00)

  • Moving from ‘fix-it’ mode to ‘understanding’. (8:29)

  • How to deal when one partner in the co-parent has ADHD and you have a child diagnosed with ADHD too. (16:31)

  • What to do when one parent is in denial about a diagnosis. (19:05)

  • Steps to help empower your child to find control where they can and help them feel good. (20:26)

  • Choose one thing to be important at a time and not try to do everything at once. (38:26)

  • What to do when your co-parent partner is criticizing your way of parenting.

Learn More About Elaine Taylor-Klaus:

Elaine Taylor-Klaus is an author, parent educator, and certified coach. The co-founder of ImpactADHD.com, co-creator of Sanity School® (an online behavior therapy program), and co-author of Parenting ADHD Now! Easy Intervention Strategies to Empower Kids with ADHD, she provides coaching, training, and support for parents of complex kids – and parents raising kids in complex times. Her newest book, The Essential Guide to Raising Complex Kids with ADHD, Anxiety and More was released in September. Elaine has served as a parent advisor for the American Academy of Pediatrics and on the national Board of Directors of CHADD. She is the mother in an ADHD++ family of six.

Resources & Links:

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