Wondering if you should have sex with your spouse — even if you don’t want to? I’m gonna give it to you straight… NOPE. NEVER. NOT A CHANCE. There’s no gray area here. No one — I repeat — NO ONE is entitled to your body. At any time. Or for any fucking reason. Period. Not even your husband. So […]
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So you’re divorcing, but you’ve decided (or you need) to stay in the same house for a little while. It may feel impossible to cohabitate with someone who feels like your sworn enemy at the moment, but many people choose this route while they figure their lives out. Obviously, if there’s abuse going on and you’re not safe to stay […]
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Listen… No one goes into a marriage planning on getting a divorce… You likely entered your partnership with incredible dreams, goals, and a whole lotta warm, fuzzy feelings about your future with this person. You built a life with them. You built a fucking family with them. And, somewhere along the line, things shifted. After so many years, you can’t […]
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Your mind has been racing with thoughts like: “Why is nothing I do good enough?” “Am I really that bad of a wife?” “I’m trying so hard, but it feels like everything I do is wrong.” Every single interaction with your spouse leaves you feeling confused, invalidated, and… small. Your head is spinning after the five-hour fight you had. Nothing […]
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Communication Divorce Motherhood
When your life is turned upside down by divorce, it can be so hard to think clearly. It feels like there are millions of things to untangle and sort through, and each one is swirling through your mind fighting for your attention. And in the midst of all that chaos is the most important decision you’ll have to make: your […]
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Whether you made this decision or it was made for you, here you are. So what do you do now? Lawyer up, right? 🙅🏼♀️ Wrong 🙅🏼♀️ “Lawyer up” is the most dangerous advice you can take from anyone, especially someone who doesn’t know the ins and outs of your specific marriage and divorce. As soon as you “lawyer up” you […]
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I remember my first Valentine’s Day after my divorce. My ex had a girlfriend, and the guy I’d been seeing had dumped me a month before on a trip to Big Bear, hours before having to drive down the windy mountain in a rainstorm. We hadn’t had breakfast (because get me the fuck off this mountain), and I’m really sensitive […]
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After our divorce, while we each dated other people, my ex and I still did holidays together, went to the theatre together, and had family dinners together. After all we’d been through we were now close, and as he began to date I took on the awkward yet esteemed role of First Wife. I’d befriend his girlfriends. Partly because it […]
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Co-Parenting Divorce Single Motherhood
Recently an anonymous reader asked: My son often asks for his daddy. I don’t know what to say to him. It breaks my heart because I’ve done everything I can to bridge the gap and encourage his father to be a part of his life. But he’s totally absent. Only visits maybe 20hrs a month sometimes less. Can you give […]
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Many moms tell me that their ex simply won’t collaborate with them. It breaks my heart to see people who are otherwise mentally stable, intelligent people refuse to put their own resentments aside in service of what might truly be best for their children. {I also have a lot of women come to me who are divorcing malignant narcissists, and […]
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