The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast Encore Episode

When You Give Up the Authentic Fight

Encore Episode: When You Give Up the Authentic Fight

About This Episode

This week’s episode is an encore episode. I’m away at my Unbreakable Retreat, so I’m revisiting one that felt right to bring back.

I asked a friend who is going through a divorce what I should talk about on this episode. He said I should talk about cravings. He explained it this way, “Given the shit happening in the world, we turn to safety, fantasy, and imagination to numb our true selves and we give up the authentic fight.” How beautiful is that?

There is so much happening in the world right now.

And my friend is right, we numb out as a way to escape. We numb with food, drinking, or shopping. When it comes to relationships, we numb out by fantasizing about other people, hoping they are the cure for a troubled marriage. Turning to other people, places, or things will not lead you to true fulfillment. Doing so simply covers up the pain, momentarily.

Succumbing to cravings is giving up the authentic fight.

What happens if you just sit still with all of the shit that is happening in your life? What if you gazed into all of your own holes and examined them for what they are? What if?

What might be possible for your relationship, for your marriage, or most importantly, for you? That’s what this episode is about. I hope you tune in.

What you’ll hear about in this episode:

  • Why a marriage is not responsible for fulfilling you 100%
  • Discernment work is so complex, but necessary
  • The importance of recognizing your own ‘made-up’ stories and changing the narrative

Disclaimer

The commentary and opinions available on this podcast are for informational and entertainment purposes only and not for the purpose of providing legal or psychological advice. You should contact an attorney, coach, or therapist in your state to obtain advice with respect to any particular issue or problem.

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