Grit & Grace
This is why Community is one of the cornerstones of my business and one of my most deeply held personal values.
And now, for the first time ever, I’ve fused the personal needs of my clients with the need for all women to be in Community and created a revolutionary, all new community coaching experience.
“In ancient times women shared a lot more than they do today. They shared care of their babies, gathered food and cooked together. The women and the children shared their lives intimately, and were a source of strength and comfort to each other on a daily basis. Traditions like the Red Tent, where women came together during menstruation, often with synchronized cycles, were a beautiful time for nurturing, sharing women’s business and keeping each other resilient and happy. Today, women are a lot more isolated in their own homes and lives and more separate from each other. The opportunities for coming together are much more limited and the time spent together in this way greatly reduced. Because of this, women miss the beautiful healing and nourishment that comes from being with others.” – WHY WOMEN NEED A TRIBE By Tanja Taljaard and Azriel Re’Shel
You may know me as the host of the number one divorce podcast in the world, The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast. You may know me from my online community, Should I Stay or Should I Go? on Facebook. You may know me from Instagram or TikTok…
Hell, you might not know me at all! In that case, let me introduce myself…
My name is Kate Anthony and it is my mission to empower women to recognize their power — in life and in relationships — and to dismantle systemic structures of oppression that keep marriages in gendered power imbalances.
I was in a very volatile marriage that I now understand to have been abusive, but when I was in it I had no words for it. It wasn’t until years later that I began to understand the true dynamic of my marriage and I’ve been studying abuse and relationships ever since.
I know first-hand what it’s like to agonize over whether to stay in or leave a marriage, to wonder if the grass is really greener on the other side, to wrestle with whether or not a divorce will fuck up my kid, and to be terrified of being alone forever.
I also know what it’s like to go through a divorce, to co-parent with someone who abused me for years, to set boundaries, to change them, to reset them, and to heal from devastating loss while having to be in contact with my abuser every day.
That’s why I do what I do.
And while I’ve been through all of this, I’m also trained and certified to lead you.
I am a Certified Co-Parenting Specialist (CoPS) through The Mosten Guthrie Academy, and am certified as a Domestic Violence Advocate by the state of California. Additionally, I was trained in various coaching modalities with two of the top coach training organizations in the world: CTI, where I was certified as a Professional CoActive Coach (CPCC), and CRR Global, where I was trained as an Organization and Relationship Systems Coach (ORSC). I’ve trained Fortune 500 organizations in emotional intelligence and communication, and coached thousands of women around the world.
Deep and foundational personal development work that will help ground you in who you are, and how you arrived at this moment in time. This work will provide you with the foundation for a lifetime of confidence and clarity in any situation. For more information on this, click here.
Vital building blocks of codependency, how it manifests in your relationships, and where it comes from. We’ll also look at how codependence is like a thread that weaves itself through things that are NOT YOUR FUCKING JOB, managing a partner or spouse’s addiction, infidelity, and mental illness, and so much more.
Techniques for healing and grief recovery that include emotional grounding, resentment-clearing processes, and healing from betrayal..
The nuts and bolts of divorce. How does it work? What about the kids? What’s a parenting plan and how do you make one? What’s the difference between mediation and litigation? Do I need a lawyer? Whether you’re getting divorced or not, it’s often important to have these questions answered so you know what might be happening around the corner.
How to have difficult conversations, from telling your husband you want a divorce to telling your kids you’re getting divorced, we’ll cover it all, including giving you scripts and templates so you go into every conversation feeling confident and prepared.
Co-Parenting through divorce, including low and high-conflict cases. We’ll work on how you might live together, separated, and use that time to your advantage, and help you craft parenting plans for all occasions.
Dealing with a high-conflict personality, whether they’re an abuser, a narcissist, or just an asshole, you’ll learn strategies and tricks to preserve your sanity and your pocketbook.
Money blocks and money clarity. What’s your money personality? What’s your money story? What kinds of shit gets in the way of you prospering on your own terms? Have you been a stay-at-home-mom? What will you get in child and/or spousal support? What’s a real barrier, and what’s a story? We’ll break it allllll down.
Shared parenting time can become an enormous bone of contention between divorcing couples and is often one of the things that ends up putting kids directly in the middle of a bitter divorce. What if there was a better way? How would it feel to create a parenting plan and shared parenting schedule that truly centered around your children? Amazing, that’s how. And I’ll tell you exactly how to do it.
✓ Should I Stay or Should I Go?
✓ The Divorce Survival Program
✓ Tackling Codependence
Yes. If you identify as a woman, this program is for you.
Absolutely! While I’m a cis-hetero woman and that’s my experience of divorce I have worked with many lesbian women. Much of the patriarchal power imbalances that show up in cis-hetero relationships also show up in LGBTQIA relationships because patriarchy is patriarchy and it’s fucking everywhere.
Yes, all members will be at different points in their journey, both in terms of why they’re in the program (trying to decide whether to stay or go, getting divorced, or healing post-divorce) and where they’re at in the coursework. That’s by design. Having women at different stages of the work is what helps build community and mentorship. A true community is run by and for its members, with those who’ve been around longer (sometimes called “elders”) supporting those who are newer, or younger by sharing their experiences. This is how communities thrive, and that’s how this program will as well.
The great thing about Grit & Grace is that, much like the work we have to do on ourselves, there is no end. There is a minimum commitment of three months, after which you may continue, month-to-month, for as long as you want to.
Yes. Because I want this to be as intimate an experience as possible, after 20 participants I will open a new cohort. It’s important that everyone feels that they’re getting the coaching they need on each call, and while it’s rare that an entire cohort shows up on every call, I will hold that as a firm boundary.
Missing a call or two and listening to the recording is fine, but if you can’t make the calls regularly, private coaching will be better for you.
While you’re in the program you’ll have access to all current and past guest expert workshops so you can watch anything you may have missed while you’re an active member. Note: This isn’t lifetime access; you will only have access while you’re an active member of the program.
On the one hand, I hear this so often, and that’s one of the absolute beauties of group work: you will almost immediately realize that whatever your experience, someone else in the group has had it too. There’s almost nothing that’s unique, and certainly nothing that’s shameful.
That being said, if you’re a really private person and group work feels too vulnerable and exposing for you, you may do better with private coaching.