When you’re wrestling with the question Should I stay or should I go?, the swirl of fear, guilt, and confusion can feel relentless. After more than a decade supporting thousands of women through this, I created my Divorce Roadmap to help you drop a pin on where you are right now — so you know what’s normal, what’s ahead, and that you’re not alone.

Here’s how the roadmap unfolds — and where you can get support for each stage:

Stage One: Awareness

It starts when something feels off — but you can’t quite name it yet.

  • Questioning – Is this really what marriage is supposed to feel like? Is it me?
  • Dawning Realization – You see you’ve done all the work — and they won’t change.
  • Begging & Bargaining – You plead, suggest therapy, pour your heart out.
  • Anger – You realize they’ve done nothing, and you’ve carried it all alone.
  • Grief & Despair – You mourn the marriage you thought you had.
  • Acceptance – You know you can’t fix this alone — and it’s time to act.

Helpful: Download the free Divorce Roadmap to see exactly where you are — and what to do next.

Stage Two: Action

This stage is about the brave — and practical — steps forward.

  • Having the Talk – You tell them it’s over, no matter how scared you are.
  • Making Big Decisions – Where will you live? How will you separate finances?
  • Telling the Kids – One of the hardest, most heart-wrenching conversations.
  • Backsliding – The guilt and “what ifs” that pull you backward.
  • Living Together While Separated – Many do this while sorting out logistics.
  • Legal & Financial – Attorneys, paperwork, budgets, custody — the heavy stuff.

Resource: My Divorce Survival Guide Resource Bundle includes scripts, safety plans, a detailed parenting plan, and a guide on How to Tell Your Kids You’re Getting Divorced so you’re not navigating these conversations and decisions alone.

Tool: My Divorce Survival Guide Planner helps you organize every document, question, and step so you don’t feel buried in the chaos.

Stage Three: Moving On

When the papers are signed (or even before), your new chapter begins.

  • Co-Parenting – Navigating daily life with someone you might not trust. The Resource Bundle includes a How to Tell Your Kids guide and detailed parenting plan template to help you do this well.
  • Dating Again – Dipping your toe back into companionship — when you’re ready.
  • Single by Choice – Focusing on your freedom and rediscovering yourself.
  • First Relationship – Exciting and terrifying — trusting again.
  • First Heartbreak – Proof you’re alive and open — even when it hurts.
  • Family Blending – Merging households, co-parenting, and redefining family.

You Don’t Have to Do This Alone

Wherever you are — questioning, backsliding, or starting over — it’s all normal. And there’s support for every phase.

Next Step: Download your Divorce Roadmap here — it’s free and will help you see exactly where you stand.
Stay Organized: Use the Divorce Survival Guide Planner to manage the details that feel overwhelming.
Feel Supported: Get scripts, checklists, parenting plans, and more in my Resource Bundle.

Divorce isn’t just an event — it’s a journey. You deserve to move through it with clarity, courage, and hope. And you don’t have to do it alone.