Life after divorce is rarely what we expect it to be.For many women, the focus during divorce is survival—protecting your children, navigating the legal system, securing financial stability, and getting out of an unhealthy marriage. But once the divorce is finalized and the legal fight is over, a quieter and often more confusing chapter begins.This is where questions about identity […]
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Betrayal doesn’t just damage a relationship. It disrupts your nervous system, your sense of reality, and your ability to trust your own perception.Whether the betrayal was infidelity, chronic lying, or gaslighting, the aftermath often includes anxiety, hypervigilance, emotional numbness, and relentless mental looping. Many women wonder why they can’t “move on,” even if they’ve chosen to stay in the relationship […]
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January: When Women Finally Stop WaitingEvery January, I watch the same thing happen.Women I’ve been coaching for months — sometimes over a year — finally make the call to an attorney. Women who’ve been sitting in that painful space between “I know I need to leave” and “I’m actually ready to leave” suddenly hit their breaking point.It’s not a coincidence. […]
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When it comes to healing after abuse, one truth stands above all others: you cannot rebuild your life until you learn to trust yourself again.I see this with nearly every woman I work with. They leave emotionally or physically abusive relationships, step into freedom, and suddenly realize they’ve forgotten what it feels like to have agency. Years of manipulation and […]
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When I work with clients who are on the edge of major change—leaving an abusive relationship, calling an attorney, setting a boundary they’ve avoided for years—I often hear, “I know this chaos. I can handle this chaos. I don’t know what comes next.”This isn’t resistance. It’s not indecision or weakness. It’s a trauma response. Specifically, it’s freeze.Freeze is your nervous […]
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We’re not obsessed with death. We’re searching for survival lessons the genre refuses to teach.Why Women Can’t Stop Watching True CrimeWomen consume true crime more than any other demographic — not because we’re drawn to darkness, but because we’re trying to survive it. What looks like morbid curiosity is, for many of us, an act of self-preservation. True crime has […]
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When I work with clients who are married to someone struggling with addiction—especially when alcohol is part of an abusive or volatile dynamic—the path forward can feel impossibly tangled. They’re often caught between fear and guilt: fear of what will happen if they leave, and guilt for even considering it. One of the most common questions I hear is, “How […]
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Money isn’t just numbers on a spreadsheet. It’s safety, freedom, self-worth—and, for many women going through divorce, a whole lot of shame. In my recent conversation with Shari Rash—nationally recognized financial advisor, money mindset expert, and host of Everyone’s Talking Money—we explored how women can reclaim their financial confidence during and after divorce.Shari’s first piece of advice? Start dating your […]
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When we think of leadership, we often picture boardrooms, not breakups. But after my recent conversation with executive leadership coach and consultant Blair Glaser, I’ve been thinking differently—because what Blair teaches about leadership and teams maps beautifully onto what I see working for my clients during and after divorce.When you’re navigating grief, co-parenting, communication breakdowns, and a total identity reset, […]
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If you’re dating after divorce, here’s the reframe that will change everything: you are the chooser, not the one waiting to be chosen. Most of us were socialized to be “picked”—to smooth our edges, ignore our instincts, and give endless second chances. That conditioning doesn’t just waste your time; it puts you at risk.Professor of rhetoric and creator of the […]
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