Written in Kate Anthony’s signature straight talking, empowered style, The D Word is more than a practical handbook for those considering divorce. It also reveals how cultural and societal influences negatively affect our relationships and expectations, stacking the odds against women. And it provides a template for confident decision-making and lasting growth and change—whether readers choose to stay in a marriage or leave it.
For those who feel powerless and lost in broken marriages, Anthony shines a light.
Reading The D Word is like sitting with a wise, experienced and educated friend who gently takes you through your fears and the nuanced logistics of making the decision to leave, figuring out how to tell him and the kids, how to protect yourself from hostile reactions and so much more. It is a divorce coach in a book. The empathy and gentle kindness you feel the moment you begin to read these pages is in and of itself comforting. Kate Anthony has taken an immensely frightening and overwhelming circumstance and broken it down into bite size, understandable and doable small steps, while sharing a depth of love and compassion for where you are. If you are on the fence or just deciding to leave, this book is your best companion through the early stages of the process.
In this groundbreaking online coaching program that’s already been taken by hundreds of women, you’ll unlock the support, education and deep transformational work you need to finally answer your most burning question:
And while you’ll be doing the work in the privacy of your own home or office, at your own pace, you’ll be supported by a community of bad-ass fierce AF women who are doing it virtually alongside you.
Better and worth more than nearly all of the money I've spent in therapy...For real.
I was hesitant to enroll in SISOSIG because I was so unsure of everything, but every single module, every video, every worksheet helped me tremendously. I’m not exaggerating when I say that I’m a different person than I was when I started this program.
Kate is like a good friend who tells you like it is, no holds barred but in a kind way. It's like having a knowledgeable big sister/girlfriend who is on the other side telling you the stuff that you need to know to get yourself together and move on with your life so you can thrive not just survive. Friends keep saying that they can't believe how calm I am and how much I have already learned from just working my way through the program.
There is no other coaching program out there created by someone who’s walked this path or has such a breadth and depth of experience helping women successfully chart – and travel – the road to freedom.
from doubt and confusion
from constant worry and the swirl of indecision
from a history of unhealthy and toxic relationships
But most of all, you will have absolute clarity about whether you should stay in your marriage or move towards divorce — and feel completely supported by our incredibly community either way.
This program is self-paced, but I strongly recommend you dedicate 2-4 hours each week to diving into the content. If you go too slowly, you’ll lose momentum. If you move too quickly you may miss the opportunity for important concepts to really sink in. Go at your own pace; you’re your own best judge! (And your Inner Guide will help you with this!)
YES! If you already know you want to go, this program is DEFINITELY for you. It will help you uncover how you got here in the first place and heal so you don’t repeat patterns that have likely followed you for decades. (Remember that 68% of second marriages end in divorce, as do 74% of third marriages. This program will help you avoid that!)
Nope. I’ve had clients stay in their marriages, a few of them really happily. This course will give you clarity. It will give you information and tools that you can take home and put to work to save your marriage right away. If you have a willing partner, and if too much water hasn’t gone under the bridge, you can absolutely save your marriage by doing this work.
I’ve tried to make this work as accessible as possible with the privacy constraints of my clients top of mind. Every lesson in this program is available to watch as a video and also listen to as a podcast-style audio feed.
You may have to get creative and get out of the house for a couple of hours a week. You may have to tell a white lie and say you’re taking a ceramics class. Past participants have done the work on their lunch breaks at work and attended weekly calls from their cars. Where there’s a will, there’s a way.
Unfortunately, due to the constraints of financial institutions, my name will appear on your credit card statement, and different banks surface different information (which, unfortunately , is totally out of my control).
If you’re worried about your husband googling my name and seeing who I am and what I do, I suggest asking a friend or family member to put the charge on their card and giving them cash or taking out a card in your name just for this purchase.
Unfortunately I cannot make special arrangements like this, otherwise I’d spend my life managing other people’s finances, rather than creating the content you’ve come to rely on from me. If it means a lot to you, you’ll find a way.
As one client said, “This is better, and worth more, than all the money I’ve spent on therapy!”
I like to think of it like this: Therapy digs into your past to try to understand how and why you think, feel, and act the way you do. It is introspective and clarifying.
Coaching, on the other hand, moves you forward into a future of your own design. Sure, there’s some past-digging to do, because usually the things that block us have to do with stuff we’ve been through, or stories we’ve made up about ourselves due to past experiences. But overall coaching is actionable and transformational.
I’ve had a number of clients who’ve been in therapy for years but got to a place where they thought, “OK, yeah, I get it all, but now what??” I find these clients to be my biggest success stories, and the ones who make the biggest leaps in the shortest period of time, saying things like “Wow. In all my years of therapy, I never felt such huge shifts.”
I find the most effective process usually includes both therapy and coaching, or some combination of the two.
Our group is PRIVATE. This means that people who are not in the group can search for it and see that it exists, but they WILL NOT be able to see who’s IN the group, other than moderators and admins. While posts will show up in your personal Facebook feed, they are not visible to ANYONE outside the group. This means that ONLY those who are in the group will be able to see what’s posted there. That being said, all of your social media can be subpoenaed during divorce, so don’t say anything anywhere on social media you wouldn’t feel comfortable saying in front of a judge.
Every woman joining this program is in the same boat and worried about their confidentiality as well, so I find that trust comes naturally. The Facebook group is run with rigor. If anything is shared outside the group, the violator will be removed from the community and the program immediately, with no refund offered. I’ve never had an issue with that, but I have built this precaution in just in case.