Divorce is one of the most emotionally and logistically complex transitions a woman can face. Whether you’re initiating the process or responding to your partner’s decision, the path forward can feel overwhelming and uncertain. But here’s the truth I share with every client: You have more power than you think—you just need a plan.

Based on my work helping thousands of women navigate divorce with clarity and strength, here’s how to prepare in a way that protects your future and honors your truth.

1. Get Emotionally Grounded

Before diving into legal or logistical prep, get support around the emotional piece. Ending a marriage isn’t just a legal decision—it’s often the culmination of years of grief, confusion, or even trauma. Work with a therapist or divorce coach (hi!) to process your emotions and separate your truth from fear. When you’re grounded emotionally, you make clearer, more strategic decisions.

2. Understand the Dynamics at Play

If your relationship includes emotional abuse, coercive control, or financial manipulation, you’ll need to approach divorce differently. Traditional advice like “just mediate” or “keep it amicable” can backfire in high-conflict or abusive dynamics. Identify what kind of relationship you’re exiting so you can choose the right professionals and legal strategy.

3. Gather Financial Documents

Even if you weren’t the “money person” in your marriage, you need to get your hands on the full financial picture now. This includes bank statements, tax returns, mortgage documents, investment accounts, and debts. If you’re in a controlling or financially abusive relationship, gather what you can quietly and securely. My Divorce Resource Bundle includes checklists and tools to help you do this safely.

4. Build Your Team

You don’t need to do this alone—and you shouldn’t. Start building your team early: this might include a divorce coach, therapist, attorney, financial advisor, and possibly a custody evaluator or mediator. Choose professionals who understand your values and the nuances of your situation. If abuse is present, prioritize trauma-informed professionals who know how to navigate high-conflict divorce.

5. Prioritize Safety + Stability

If you’re preparing to leave an abusive relationship, your safety comes first. Create a safety plan, consider staying with trusted friends or family, and document everything. If kids are involved, think through how to create as much emotional and physical stability for them as possible, even as things change.

6. Get Clear on What You Want

This is your life—you get to shape what comes next. Think about your goals for co-parenting, your career, where you want to live, and what kind of support you’ll need along the way. Divorce isn’t just an ending—it’s a new beginning.

Final Thought:
You don’t need to be fearless to take the next step. You just need to be supported. If you’re ready to move forward with clarity and power, I invite you to explore my online programs and resources, designed specifically for women navigating divorce.

You are not alone. You are not broken. You are just getting started.

Need guidance? Learn more about my coaching programs here.