Should you stay or should you go?

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Should you stay or should you go?

You’re terrified, broken-hearted, and desperate for answers.

You’ve consulted oracles and spirit guides and journaled to death about whether or not to leave your marriage.

You’ve taken all the classes, read all the books, and listened to all the podcasts.

But you’re still idling in neutral at the fork in the road unsure which path to take — and you really want to know which path will do the least damage to your kids.

Oh love, I totally get it – and am here to help.

When I was in the depths of despair struggling to decide whether or not to leave my marriage, I wanted a burning bush; I wanted someone, or something, to tell me clearly, “it’s time to go,” or “stay and you’ll get through this.” 

I desperately wanted to protect my son from the fallout of a divorce, but I wasn’t sure if I was doing more damage by staying in my toxic marriage.

What I know now is that, instead of a burning bush, what I really needed was a system.

There was an enormous stack of emotional boxes at my feet, and I needed someone to  help me sort through them.

Like a Marie Kondo for my life.


But of course back in 2008, nothing like that existed.

And since it didn’t exist for me, it became my life’s mission to create it for you.


Should I Stay Or Should I Go?

An online coaching program designed to help you make the right decision about your marriage...once and for all.

In this groundbreaking online coaching program, you’ll unlock the support, education and deep transformational work you need to finally answer to your most burning question:


Should I Stay or Should I Go?

This is not just breakthrough, it's really transformational and foundational to ANY healthy and functioning relationship - with SELF or OTHERS. I'm TRULY grateful and honored to be here. This is mind blowing work.

- bz

There is no other coaching program out there designed to answer this specific question, backed by an in-depth study of marriage and human psychology.

There is no other coaching program out there created by someone who’s walked this path or has such a breadth and depth of experience experience helping women successfully chart – and travel – the road to freedom.



from doubt and confusion



from constant worry and the swirl of indecision



from a history of unhealthy and toxic relationships

The cold, hard truth is this, my love:

While approximately 50% of first marriages end in divorce, 68% of second marriages also end in divorce, and 74% of third marriages do too.

What this means is that people aren’t doing the deep work on themselves to figure out what went wrong the first time around; they’re simply trading out partners and repeating unhealthy patterns over and over and over again.

So, while this program will help you answer this important question, it isn’t just about figuring out if you should stay or go.


It’s about making sure you heal from your past so that you make healthy choices from a place of deep self-worth — and not repeat unhealthy relationship choices and patterns well into your future.

Doesn’t that sound fucking amazing?

Kate Anthony is the perfect combo of your best girlfriend, the momma you never had and that wise old spirit woman that only speaks to you in your dreams.

- SH

This program is TOTALLY for you if:

  • You’re a mom who’s been questioning whether or not to leave your marriage for so long that it’s starting to weigh on you. Heavily.
  • You’re smart AF, successful in all sorts of ways and tired of carrying around this secret pain you’re unable to ‘solve’.
  • You’re pretty sure you bear some responsibility in all this mess, but it’s really hard for you to sort through it all because what you’re being told by your husband doesn’t line up with how you feel.
  • You already know this needs to end, and need the strength or confidence to make the move.
  • You’ve done therapy or coaching, or regularly consume personal development content (books, podcasts, etc.) and are ready to do some deep work and move theory into action.
  • You are will ing and able to commit 2-4 hours per week to this work, which is deep, rigorous and has the potential to be completely transformational.
  • You have an open mind and are willing to dig deeply and uncover things that might challenge and confront you.
  • You’re already a fan of The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast and follow me on social media and you know I’m your kinda chick.

On the other hand, this program is NOT for you if:

  • You’re currently being physically abused. If this is the case, I urge you to contact your local DV shelter and get help immediately.
  • You’re looking for a quick fix. This program is deep, rigorous and will ask a lot of you. This is the hardest question you’ll ever answer in your life, and it deserves your full and deep attention.
  • You’re convinced it’s all his fault and if he’d just do what you tell him to do, everything would be fine.
  • You’re not willing or able to commit 2-4 hours per week. It’s my commitment that all women who go through this program are deeply transformed by it. If you don’t have the time to commit to it, that simply won’t happen.
  • You want one-on-one attention and coaching. (If that’s you, private coaching is probably a better option.)
  • You’re anti-gay, anti-diversity, and anti-feminist. We’re gonna get deep into this shit, and it’s important that you’re open-minded on the topic. (And yes, it’s relevant. More than you may think.)
  • You’re bothered by swearing. 


Hi, have you fucking met me?


  • Have unshakeable self-esteem, confidence, and self-love
  • Know what’s yours, what’s his, and exactly what to do with that information
  • Know how to have super-hard conversations without crumbling under the pressure 
  • Understand yourself in a way that uncovers and explains some of the mismatches you’ve been feeling in your marriage
  • Understand how modern culture is affecting ALL of our relationships today — and what to do about it
  • Know for sure if you’re being emotionally abused or gaslit, and gain the strength and confidence to walk away safely if so
  • Have a clear map of your personal relationship and parenting history so you can rewrite your story moving forward
  • Break generations-long cycles and free your children and grandchildren from the toxicity of your past

But most of all, you will have absolute clarity about whether you should stay in your marriage or move towards divorce — and feel completely supported either way.

Are you ready to finally get the answers you’re looking for?

Better and worth more than nearly all of the money I've spent in therapy...For real.

- TS


  • Three modules of eye-opening, life-changing content delivered on a password-protected e-learning platform for your privacy and security
  • A vast library of training videos (also available in audio or transcript form for your privacy) that provide transformational content in digestible, educational, expansive ways
  • Accompanying worksheets to deepen your personal learning
  • Guest expert interviews on everything from setting healthy boundaries to dealing with emotional abuse
  • A private Facebook community where you can ask questions, share experiences, and get (and give) support
  • Monthly live community calls (moderated by me) for Q+A, community building, and deepening the work.

Should I Stay or Should I Go? is broken down into three main modules:


In this module we’ll dig deeply into your belief systems, values, inner critic and guide. We’ll learn about healthy boundaries and attachment styles. We’re building unshakable self-esteem and confidence, learning how our core values and communication styles may not align with our spouse’s and uncovering what, if anything, we might be able to do about that.

If this information doesn’t help save your marriage, it will help in the process of healing and strengthening your root system so you become as strong, healthy and vibrant as you can possibly be. It will also completely transform the model for motherhood your kids get to be raised with. #winning


This module begins with a deep dive into the history of marriage, how our primal instincts carry over into our modern marriages. We’ll explore how the expectations we have of our spouses (to be everything for us) may be totally unreasonable, and how generational trauma – carried on the wings of the patriarchy – courses through our veins, and how to heal it through radical self-care that does not include bubble baths and main-pedis.

In this module we’ll also dig deeply into the world of emotional abuse and narcissistic abuse, how to recognize and combat them, and how our emotional triggers affect ALL our relationships. This is really a deep and rich module, and it will completely shift the way you see a lot of the relationships in your life. Past participants have said that this module alone was a game-changer. No lie.


Module three begins with my signature relationship inventory that will dig deeply into your personal relationship history, help you take responsibility for how you ended up in this marriage to begin with (personal responsibility is the most powerful source of your own transformation), and help you untangle the mess of generational relationship patterns you’ve been programmed to carry on — so you can stop it in its tracks.

The Relationship Inventory is the key to not joining the ranks of the 68% of failed second marriages, or 74% of failed third marriages! We’ll talk about what healthy relationships should actually look and feel like (which might blow your mind). We’ll also touch on what life looks like after divorce, so you can make a decision armed with a lot of information about what’s on the other side of the fence you’ve been staring at for all this time. We’ll talk about grief, nostalgia, and letting go, and how to help your kids through difficult transitions.

Sounds amazing right? It totally is.

If you’re not really a DIY kinda person, and would prefer a more hands-on coaching experience, click here to learn more about how I work privately with women all over the world.

I was hesitant to enroll in SISOSIG because I was so unsure of everything, but every single module, every video, every worksheet helped me tremendously. I’m not exaggerating when I say that I’m a different person than I was when I started this program.

- SC


Lucky for you, I have all the answers!

This program is self-paced, but I strongly recommend you dedicate 2-4 hours each week to diving into the content. If you go too slowly, you’ll lose momentum. If you move too quickly you may miss the opportunity for important concepts to really sink in. Go at your own pace; you’re your own best judge. (And Module One will help you with this!)

YES! If you already know you want to go, this program is DEFINITELY for you. It will help you uncover how you got here in the first place and heal so you don’t repeat patterns that have likely followed you for decades. (Remember that 68% of second marriages end in divorce, as do 74% of third marriages. This program will help you avoid that!)

Nope. I’ve had clients stay in their marriages, a few of them really happily. This course will give you clarity. It will give you information and tools that you can take home and put to work to save your marriage right away. If you have a willing partner, and if too much water hasn’t gone under the bridge, you can absolutely save your marriage by doing this work.

I’ve tried to make this work as accessible as possible with the privacy constraints of my clients top of mind. Every lesson in this program is available to watch as a video, download as an audio, or read as a transcript.

You may have to get creative and get out of the house for a couple of hours a week. You may have to tell a white lie and say you’re taking a ceramics class. Past participants have done the work on their lunch breaks at work and attended weekly calls from their cars. Where there’s a will, there’s a way.

Unfortunately, due to the constraints of financial institutions, my name will appear on your credit card statement, and different banks surface different information (which, unfortunately , is totally out of my control).

If you’re worried about your husband googling my name and seeing who I am and what I do, I suggest asking a friend or family member to put the charge on their card and giving them cash or taking out a card in your name just for this purchase.

Unfortunately I cannot make special arrangements like this, otherwise I’d spend my life managing other people’s finances, rather than creating the content you’ve come to rely on from me. If it means a lot to you, you’ll find a way.

I like to think of it like this: digs into your past to try to understand how and why you think, feel, and act the way you do. It is introspective and clarifying.

Coaching, on the other hand, moves you forward into a future of your own design. Sure, there’s some past-digging to do, because usually the things that block us have to do with stuff we’ve been through, or stories we’ve made up about ourselves due to past experiences. But overall coaching is actionable and transformational.

I’ve had a number of clients who’ve been in therapy for years but got to a place where they thought, “OK, yeah, I get it all, but now what??” I find these clients to be my biggest success stories, and the ones who make the biggest leaps in the shortest period of time, saying things like “Wow. In all my years of therapy, I never felt such huge shifts.”

I find the most effective process usually includes both therapy and coaching, or some combination of the two.

Our group is PRIVATE. This means that people who are not in the group can search for it and see that it exists, but they WILL NOT be able to see who’s IN the group, other than moderators and admins. While posts will show up in your personal Facebook feed, they are not visible to ANYONE outside the group. This means that ONLY those who are in the group will be able to see what’s posted there. So yes. It is private.

Every woman joining this group is in the same boat and worried about their confidentiality, so I find that trust comes naturally. The Facebook group is run with rigor. If anything is shared outside the group, the violator will be removed from the community and the program immediately, with no refund offered. I’ve never had an issue with that, but I have built this precaution in just in case.

Ready to get on board and change your life?

"Honestly I can't say enough about how much it is SO worth it. The topics covered in here are things I learned in marriage counseling, years of listening to marriage podcasts and blogs, etc.... and it's all right here in manageable chunks. If you find that you do want to go, you will be able to see why SO much more clearly and walk away with a lot less guilt. But if you decide to stay; this program will equip you and make your marriage stronger, healthier, and more honest. This program is basically years of marriage counseling condensed. But also it's at least a year of personal counseling, also condensed.I got through personal counseling so much faster by working through this program.”

- AM